"He saith to him again the second time, Simon, son of Jonas, lovest thou me? He saith unto him, Yea, Lord; thou knowest that I love (Phileo) thee. He saith unto him, Feed my sheep."
(John 21:16 KJV)
In Greek: phileo, means, "to be a friend to, have affection" which is a fondness type of love. We see both agape (sacrifical) and phileo love at work in John 21:16. In this conversation between the Apostle Peter and the Lord Jesus Christ, Peter is feeling deep remorse and guilt for having denied even knowing Jesus during the trials that led to His crucifixion. Knowing that love overcomes guilt, Jesus is leading Peter to examine and confirm the depth of his love.
A web site set up by Grace Bible College discusses phileo love: "... We have phileo love. Philia refers to brotherly love and is most often exhibited in a close friendship. Best friends will display this generous and affectionate love for each other as each seeks to make the other happy. The Scriptural account of David and Jonathan is an excellent illustration of phileo love: 'After David had finished talking with Saul, Jonathan became one in spirit with David, and he loved him as himself. . . . And Jonathan made a covenant with David because he loved him as himself' (1 Samuel 18:1-3). We need to have phileo love because we need true friends to stand with us, people who are emotionally connected to us and with whom we can share our deepest thoughts and feelings.
Since phileo love involves feelings of warmth and affection toward another person, we do not have phileo love toward our enemies. However, God commands us to have agape love toward everyone. This includes those whose personalities clash with ours, those who hurt us and treat us badly, and even those who are hostile toward our faith (Luke 6:28; Matthew 5:44). In time, as we follow God's example of agape love for our enemies, we may even begin to experience phileo love for some of them as we start to see them through God's eyes." Read more at: http://www.gotquestions.org/phileo-love.html-ixzz2nN1c4bWo
Phileo love is important to our well-being and ability to love others as Our Awesome God wants us to. Our church is a loving church that wants to help others to a better understanding of Our Awesome God and His love, mercy and grace for all of mankind. Join us at Living Word Baptist Church as we love others while preaching and teaching from our Holy Bible about God and His Son, Jesus Christ. Our church has a Bible Study at 9:30 AM on Sunday and Worship Service at 10:30 AM and then at 6:00 PM there is another Bible Study. We love visitors!
Flo & Bill